Stop Believing The Lies About Who You Are, So You Can Become Who You Are Meant To Be
Just One Thing Real Quick…
Before I tell you how great this book is, I have to brag on my progress in my TBI rehabilitation. It has been over a year since my accident, to be specific, 379 days.
This time last year, even this time six months ago, the thought of being able to read a whole book would have made me laugh. Don’t get me wrong, my eyes are still an issue. I start seeing double when my eyes get tired and it does increase my headaches. A few months ago I would not have even considered trying to read a book. I might have read random articles or short blog posts, but a whole book, that would have been impossible. So this is the first book I have read since my TBI.
I had some challenges while reading it. My eyes twitch when they get tired, and I start to see double. I was able to adjust the print on the Kindle screen to a larger size which helped. When it got too tough for me to see, I was able to close my eyes for a few moments and then start over again. I can’t even tell you how major of progress that is for me!
Back To The Book!
The book begins with the author explaining a time in her life where she was unhappy and overwhelmed. Each chapter begins with a lie that she was either being told or telling herself, that made her feel that way.
She makes it clear throughout the chapters that most of these lies are things that we have all felt about ourselves at some point in time, they are universal. Stemming from society and our need to compare ourselves to others. It’s like we feel we need to live up to some sort of invisible expectations throughout our lives.
Each chapter begins with a specific lie. Then goes into her telling her personal stories of how this lie effected her and how she felt about herself. Then at the end of each chapter, there is advice on what she did to help combat the lie.
It’s Like Advice From A Close Friend
Reading this book felt like getting advice from a close friend. Her writing voice is kind, accepting, friendly and matter of fact. She is not afraid to tell the nitty-gritty truth about how she felt about things that happened to her or the situations she was put in.
It Has A Perfect Kind Of Balance
I think the book is a perfect balance of reminding women that we have control of our own lives, while still acknowledging that God has paths intended for all of us.
It talks a lot about perspective, how she saw things back then compared to how she saw them now. It encourages us to evaluate our perspective. That we don’t need to believe the lies we tell ourselves in our self talk. We also don’t have to fit into social norms and put ourselves in little boxes or categories.
Everyone is unique. Within us we have the ability to do great things, we just have to keep the right mindset and believe in ourselves.
Though the book does mention scripture and God, I do not think that this is a book that only a Christian woman could relate to. The author tells so many personal stories and thoughts that I think most any woman would find it relatable.
She encourages us to stop believing these lies and take control of our lives. We each are at different stages of life, are talented at different things and have different goals. One thing that we all have in common is the ability to take control of our own happiness. It might be hard. It might require some soul searching or change in perspective, but we can do it.
A Look At The Book Through A TBI Patient’s Eyes
I came across this book browsing on my amazon kindle store. I was not necessarily looking for a “self-help” or advice book. Once I read the description of the book I knew it was something I wanted to read.
Any TBI patient will tell you that loss of our identities and sense of self is a hard issue to deal with. TBI changes everything, it leads us to doubt ourselves a lot. Making it so easy for us to fall into the rut of believing the negative lies about ourselves that the author teaches us about in the book.
As TBI Patients we sometimes need to be reminded of all the things that we are still capable of despite our brain injuries. Don’ t believe the negative self-talk and the lies you or society are telling you. You can take control of your own happiness, and when you do it is an empowering feeling.
Final Thoughts! You Should Read It
I loved the book! I thought it was fun to read. Rachel Hollis writes in a way that makes you feel like she is a familiar friend giving advice. I also think it is awesome because reminds us that we are the ones that hold the key to our happiness.
This is a book that when you are done reading, you have a fresh perspective and feel like you really want to take action in improving yourself and your life.
I would highly recommend it to all women. To my TBI tribe, if you are able to, read it, or listen to it on audiobook, I think it will really hit home!