Life Lessons After Yoga Lessons
After my normal Friday yoga lessons, my instructor brought up a good point about my use of the phrase ” t is what it is.” At that particular moment, we were talking about my vision problems. How vision problems don’t just affect yoga they affect daily life.
It Is What It Is
Why do I say that so often? Well because it is the truth. I cannot change that I had the accident or that it is taking me much longer than anticipated to recover fritom it.
Saying It In Frustration
She made me realize that normally when I say it, it is out of frustration. I can’t do this or that as well, as or at all, and it just “is what it is.” Definitely I use the phrase in frustration as a way to just push the negative vibes.
A Different Perspective
She suggested that I need to micro-mange my use of that phrase. So identifying the issue and then finding a way to be proactive about it if there is one.
For example, if I’m seeing double and I say “it is what it is”. Next, I’m going to follow up that thought with a positive one or something proactive. “I’m seeing double. The only way I know to stop that is to close my eyes or place a soft gaze on something”.
It turns it into a more proactive thing by acknowledging what I can do about it if there is anything.
So, if I say it, I always need to follow the phrase up with something positive. Not just end with that one sentence of frustration.
It Should Mean Acceptance And Peace With The Current Situation
Really, “it is what it is” should not be acknowledging or bringing up the toughness of the situation. Or just giving up. From now on, I’m going to think or say to myself “it is what it is and I accept it”.
This doesn’t mean I’m going to stop doing all I can on my recovery. Of course, I’m not! It means I’m going to try and not be so hard on myself! Or get upset about things I can’t do. Also, At that moment that the TBI symptoms that I’m dealing with are just part of who I am at this point. I have to just find peace with it.
It might not always be this way, but it is for now. Next time I feel like I’m about to say it, I need to take a deep breath. Then think if there is anything I can do to help myself in that moment’s situation. If there is, great! Really, I should not be so hard on myself and realize that all these things I’m going through are lessons. If I can succeed at changing my thought pattern. Then I’m hoping that I can stop getting frustrated over every little struggle I have.
It Is What It Is…Today
It might be different tomorrow, better or worse. Each day, whether it is a good or bad one, hopefully I can find peace in knowing that I’m accepting things and not fighting them. I will work on being proactive with things I know I can do to help, but I’m not going to keep fighting over being frustrated about things over and over again in my head. If there is nothing I can do to make it better, I just have to accept it as part of who I’m at this point in my recovery and not dwell on it.
In Other Words!
What I should say (and you should also!) is this – “it is what it is, I’m going to do my very best because that is all one person can ever do and I’m okay with that.”
Rather than fighting with frustration over things that I cannot do yet, or being overly hard on myself.
Remember, we want to keep our eye on the prize! We are not going to get anywhere making statements out of frustration. We need to give ourselves a break from being so harsh on ourselves. Your very best is all you can do, and that is more than enough! We’ll get there! We just have to keep being optimistic, focus on small victories, not dwell on things that are hard. Mostly though, we just got to keep on keepin’ on. It’s the only way out of this TBI thing!